Aubrey Moss: Missing from Tacoma Found

Audrey has been found as of April 2015.  You can skip and read about it by going  to the paragraph that starts with:  Update 4/26/15 

UPDATE 5/20/15 – It has been brought to my attention that I was accused of “harassing” someone.  My personal Facebook page was shown via a cell phone photo connected to that post to direct people where to find me.  The post that was on the Help Find Aubrey Moss Facebook page, read in part, “Hi, there’s content on this Facebook Page that’s harassing me and I’m not sure how to handle it…they need to be reported.”

I guess they didn’t realize that by putting that post up, they were the ones actually harassing me.  This happened over two weeks ago and I am just learning about it now.  Any clear-headed person can scour my personal Facebook page and find nothing there.  Besides, my personal Facebook page has nothing on it regarding missing people, and I do not use it to spread the word about the missing.  All that is posted on the Missing Persons of America Facebook page.  Anyway, why they felt the need to make that statement I do not know, but I believe it is just another example of another individual that has taken their advocacy to lunacy.  Please read my “When Advocacy becomes Lunacy,” to read about how this comes to pass.  You might also find this article very informative, “McStay Family Endures Years of Online Rumors.”

There has been many times, I have read comments on sites and Facebook pages, that seemed to be led by self-righteous, self-appointed leaders of a cause.  They may have begun with a selfless purpose, but notoriety and attention has led them astray.  They pick out the individual they feel is guilty, via information they have collected over the internet, and become the Judge and Jury that harass, post, bully and hound an innocent person AND their entire family. 

Because they have a little bit more information than the average person, (basically because they spend all day, searching the internet for snippets of rumors) they come across as knowledgeable and trustworthy.  But, they are neither, as most times the information they have is only half, with the rest assumed.  Excerpt from “When Advocacy becomes Lunacy”

I suppose justice has been served as the person who tried to rally the troops and get everyone to “report me,” has deleted their post and nothing every came of their demand.

These individuals proclaim themselves an expert on the subject and many times proclaim they are privy to inside information, which usually turns out to be no more than made up stories or unsubstantiated tips.  Hiding behind “freedom of speech,” common decency is out the window as they post statements on their blog that is meant to create a verbal riot and draw attention.  In Hollywood, celebrities that do this are called fame *hores. They gain followers of like mind that are more interested in the drama than truth. excerpt from “Mcstay Family Endures Years of Online Rumors”

UPDATE:  4/29/15 – This comment was posted below this article:  “They found her from leads that came from our Facebook group and pages, and continue on with there lives. Would you want the world to know you as the girl that was raped beaten abused etc.? NO.”

I have asked for clarification on that statement but have not received a response, yet.  Is this what the parent’s were covering up? Or maybe not, but why would someone post something like that if it was meant to be keep personal.  But, maybe it didn’t happen because a friend of Aubrey’s mother said she was not kidnapped (see next paragraph below).

On Aubrey’s group page:   “Donna Talasco Christian (A friend of Aubrey’s mother) I’m sorry for all the confusion and lack of clarity. Aubrey was not kidnapped and the public is not in danger. We really appreciate all the hard work everyone put into finding her.”

UPDATE:  4/28/15 – Aubrey Moss’s case has gotten a lot of social media attention, and just because she has been found, it has not lessen that.

I was curious why there was so many hits on her story several days after she was found and decided to do a little looking around social media.  On her missing poster it stated, “Aubrey was last seen April 10th at her residence in Tacoma, Washington.”  But, there is indications all over that Aubrey was not living in Tacoma and had been living in Los Angeles.

If you notice the dates this was from Nov. 2014.  Evidently, she was living in Los Angeles when this was written and heading to Washington either to move home or for a visit.  Social media has been doing their own sleuthing and now are accusing the parents of using social media to search for their adult child, that they knew was in LA.  Speculation is that the parents were blowing it out of proportion and even stooped to using a flier with an Amber Alert on it that was made up by someone other that authorities.

Aubrey started Twitter in 2013
Her location reads LA

Others say the parent’s didn’t realize the whole “missing thing” was going to blow up so, but the bottom line, did Aubrey go back to LA and didn’t tell her parents.  Why did the parents tell everyone that Aubrey was missing from Seattle when she had not lived there for awhile?  Or had she recently moved back?

This text shows that Aubrey was in LA and probably
living there before traveling to Washington in Nov. 2014.

Another thing that has stirred up social media is that it was posted she was found on her Facebook and other support groups, and Fund me Page, then they were all deleted.  The message was, “Please Respect Our Privacy.”  That is usually a big red flag that some one is trying to cover up something (when I looked the Facebook page was still there but with post after post about missing Brison Miller and Aubrey’s photo gone on the header and replaced with Brison’s – I actually think this is a great idea, but maybe not for a young man that has told his parents that he was leaving home–read more below).



Shelly O Johnson states: Here’s the gofundme. I’d be asking for
my money back or proof it’s been donated. Wonder how much
they got in donations? Wonder how much that fancy lighted
billboard cost? By the way, the gofundme is closed too.

When an teen and even an adult child go missing, many parents sometimes leave info out.  For example, the teen was on drugs before he went missing, they had a big fight, or they just plain moved out.  Instead they tell police and social media that they would never disappear like that, that there was no reason for them to be missing, etc., never divulging the whole back story.  Police are used to this and know this happens and keeps it to themselves.  This is why sometimes it seems as though the police aren’t doing anything about the case.

In these cases the parents have a pretty good idea where their adult child is, but cry wolf and say they have been abducted or forced into sex trafficking, knowing this will get them attention on social media.  

When the attention comes, then this weird thing comes over the parents.  They start looking for donations and demanding help and delegating duties and everything has an sense of urgency about it.  It’s as though they begin to believe their own story.  Subsequently, people are right there, backing them up and doing what they can.  While the whole time the parent is covering up the back story.  

If you look at just the goal of getting the person found, it was a success, but in a lot of these cases the person was never missing in the first place.  It was just parents that could not face that their grown child for their own reasons didn’t want anything to do with them anymore, subsequently they post on social media, claim they just disappeared and draw thousands of people who don’t have the back story, into their personal family drama.

It has just recently been found that Brison Miller, who “disappeared” from Washington, too, left on his own free will.  His parents led thousands of people into believing he would have never left on his own free will.  In Brison’s case he left a note telling them he was leaving.  Did they bother to tell social media or the police that he did?  The police, I don’t know, but social media, no, not at first.  Why?  Probably because they were worried that they would not get the attention and help to find their child if they did tell, so they covered that information up.


Some parents cannot deal with the fact that their child has turned 18 and forged our on their own and  because of the times parents can now use the fears and hearts of caring people from all over the United States through social media to perpetuate a lie that their child was abducted or worse, when they know all along they left on their own free will.  It is very easy to sucker people by the cries of a parent asking  “Help find my baby.”The fact the parent needs and wants their child back into their lives is all the justification they need to lie to thousands of people.  I think this actually should be a crime.

Many give willing of their time and money and feelings when a person goes missing and they want nothing more that to see them found, and it is not right to use people like this.

Although some are saying that Aubrey was found and to move on, for those that put their worries into her safe return, not getting some kind of explanation can be confusing and devastating, and some people can even get down right mad about it.

I have been doing this so long that I know that no explanation means a cover up.  And my friends, we may have one with the actions of Aubrey’s parents.  But what is it they are covering up?   Could it be she just took off on her own and didn’t tell her parents?

I would love to hear from Aubrey about this whole case and Aubrey if you are reading this if you feel like explaining what happened that would be great. But, of course this is a request not a demand and I know perfectly well you don’t owe me anything.

UPDATE 4/26/15 – Posted on Find Aubrey Moss’ Facebook page:

***********AUBREY HAS BEEN FOUND!!!!!************
WE WOULD LIKE TO TAKE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO THANK EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU FROM AROUND THE WORLD!! WE CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH!!
AT THIS TIME, WE ASK THAT YOU RESPECT THE FAMILY’S PRIVACY. PLEASE DON’T LET THIS END HERE! LET’S FOCUS ON BRISON. IF WE CAN FIND AUBREY, WE WILL FIND HIM.

Original Story: Aubrey Moss, 20, is missing from Tacoma, Wash.  She was last seen on April 10, 2015 leaving her home.

Aubrey is 5’2″, 100 lbs, blonde hair, blue eyes. She was last seen April 10th, wearing black yoga pants, a t-shirt and a dark pink vest with flip flops. She has Roman numerals on the back of her neck and arrows on her wrist. She has her nose pierced, she usually wears a hoop in it

She left her home in North Tacoma, WA, did not tell anyone where she was going, left with nothing, has not contacted anyone, her cell phone has not been turned on nor has she been online. Aubrey does not own a car.

Please share this story and contact Tacoma PD at 253-798-4721 if you have any information!

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23 Comments

  1. What other data is available?
    -does she live by herself?
    -how are her family relationships?
    -any changes with mood
    -does she have a boyfriend?
    -friends?
    -work?
    -has she isolated herself from others?
    -has she had any physical problems, or complained of being sad?
    I know that it seems like a lot of questions but getting info from everyone can be put together and give you a sense of what she is experiencing. No matter how small or insignificant the information seems, it is relevant.

    Just thoughts to help the family and others when trying to find her. Sharon

  2. What other data is available?
    -does she live by herself?
    -how are her family relationships?
    -any changes with mood
    -does she have a boyfriend?
    -friends?
    -work?
    -has she isolated herself from others?
    -has she had any physical problems, or complained of being sad?
    I know that it seems like a lot of questions but getting info from everyone can be put together and give you a sense of what she is experiencing. No matter how small or insignificant the information seems, it is relevant.

    Just thoughts to help the family and others when trying to find her. Sharon

  3. I have viewed FB. It is great to see the nume people reaching out to support the family. I would suggest that flyers be given to emergenCy rooms and maybe to local mini marts. The other suggestion is to evaluate the neighborhood where she lives. Ask the police about the possibilities of sex offenders or other criminals. Are there any neighors that seem odd or too friendly or stare when you walk by. Put up a flyer at the mall she frequents. I pray for a safe return.

  4. Attention Ms. Dean aka shellyj

    This is in response to your question on the missing person of america page. The Facebook group and pages were never deleted. The billboards were donated. The go fund me page was taken down since we didnt need the money being that everything was donated. The person that set up the account printed 5k flyers and is using it to reimburse herself. She was missing and she was found. I have to respect the families wishes by not publicity posting the details since they do have other siblings that have to show there face in school etc. They are also a well known family that lives in Tacoma WA. Aubrey lived in LA for 3 months before moving back home. They found her from leads that came from our Facebook group and pages. and continue on with there lives. Would you want the world to know you as the girl that was raped beaten abused etc.? NO. I wouldnt so please before you believe some bitter person thats not helping find missing people because the care. The only thing they care about is the drama. I do what i do to be able reunite families. I don't get paid for it and i put in over 90 hours a week. This is ridiculous. As someone who was close to the family, I can assure you she had moved back home a few months before she disappeared. They did not know why she left which is why they asked for help to find her. And how is it considered “Crying wolf” when a family legitimately does not know where their daughter went? For all her parents knew, she went out for a walk and was taken? Or fell down an embankment? Would you not ask for the same kind of help if your child went missing under those circumstances?

  5. Attention Ms. Dean aka shellyj

    This is in response to your question on the missing person of america page. The Facebook group and pages were never deleted. The billboards were donated. The go fund me page was taken down since we didnt need the money being that everything was donated. The person that set up the account printed 5k flyers and is using it to reimburse herself. She was missing and she was found. I have to respect the families wishes by not publicity posting the details since they do have other siblings that have to show there face in school etc. They are also a well known family that lives in Tacoma WA. Aubrey lived in LA for 3 months before moving back home. They found her from leads that came from our Facebook group and pages. and continue on with there lives. Would you want the world to know you as the girl that was raped beaten abused etc.? NO. I wouldnt so please before you believe some bitter person thats not helping find missing people because the care. The only thing they care about is the drama. I do what i do to be able reunite families. I don't get paid for it and i put in over 90 hours a week. This is ridiculous. As someone who was close to the family, I can assure you she had moved back home a few months before she disappeared. They did not know why she left which is why they asked for help to find her. And how is it considered “Crying wolf” when a family legitimately does not know where their daughter went? For all her parents knew, she went out for a walk and was taken? Or fell down an embankment? Would you not ask for the same kind of help if your child went missing under those circumstances?

  6. Thank you for your side of the story. It has been impossible to find any information from the family to clarify anything, which would certainly put a stop to all the remarks going around social media. Are you stating in your comment that Aubrey was raped, beaten and abused? This certainly would explain a lot.

  7. I think maybe in some cases, Jerrie, not referring to any case in particular, parents and lived one's get mixed up between parenting and loving and supportive and controlling. It is so hard to make transitions at any age, especially the late teens and early twenties. God bless Aubrey and Bryson and all men saying persons and their loved ones.

  8. Not understanding how her being “raped, beaten and abused” before or after the event, would explain anything. I'm not even sure why anything has to be explained to the public. Do all missing people have to be “raped, beaten and abused” in order for you to want to help find them or show empathy towards them or their family? May I ask, have you been raped, beaten and abused? Please do tell in detail your past history, medical, sexual, financial and the such. It would certainly explain a lot to me. Until then, I must assume that you have some hidden agenda and are trying to cover something up. Who are you currently sleeping with and did you have sex before posting up your comments?

    My point in this? The public has no rights to private information. You acknowledge the fact that Aubrey doesn't owe you an explanation into her private life and yet you expect her parents to divulge that information to you just because they reported her missing. Can I report you missing and then give out all these juicy details of your life to random strangers? Aubrey didn't report herself missing and I respect her parents/family for not giving any details out to you and the public. You don't need to know her sex history, consensual or not or her history with relationships with anyone. That is not your business and it aids you not in posting up fliers or sharing her image. If you feel that only those raped, beaten and abused are true cases or not then I hope and pray that you never deal with having a missing loved one. Many people are not raped, beaten and abused, but end up missing for many reasons (car goes off road and they are injured/dead, they are kidnapped/attacked) and many are raped, beaten and abused and it could be that their attacker has them or that they have injured themselves and their family is looking closure. Either way, they are missing and you knowing the juicy details is not what is going to bring them back. Getting out there and searching for them and putting their faces out there will.

  9. If your child was raped, beaten or abused would YOU feel it was necessary to publicly post that just to curve the curiosity of people that obviously don't really care about the fact that someone is missing? Would having that knowlege change how you would continue to look for that person? If you truly believe that if this family (or any other family) came out and publicly announced all their secrets that the social media comments would cease, you are highly mistaken. So many people have posted cruel comments (& continue to do so), harrassed this poor family and have taken on the responsibility of creating social media pages w/out consent of this family. I'm shocked how so many people assume they DESERVE to know anything else other than the fact that Aubrey was missing. All this family wanted was for their daughter to be found and make sure she was okay. It's shameful and uncomprehensible how people thrive on drama & only seem care about the juicy details. Who cares about the fact that she was found. That's not enough.

  10. This is data that the police needs, not you or any other member of the public. None of this aids you or the general public in putting up fliers or sharing the fact that she is missing. All this small and insignificant information is relevant…to the police and the detectives investigating her disappearance. You and the general public are not police officers or detectives. We are not the FBI or other agency and knowing these small details does not aid any of us in helping. Only thing it does is give people a reason to talk (oh, well I heard…) and anyone talking can't claim empathy or sympathy for her or her family (or any missing person case). Your motivation for helping and caring should be that someone is missing. Race, age, sexuality, gender, religion, past history, criminal record, relationship status and the such should have no bearing. If not having the answers to any of the questions you demand to know becomes the reason to not come to someones aid then the issue is not with the family or the missing person, it is with you. As a community we should come together to aid each other and we shouldn't expect anything in return. Not an explanation and not a Thank you. It should be enough, just finding that a missing person, child or adult, has been found. The only time the public needs details is if foul play is at hand and public safety is a concern. Many missing people can come up missing without public safety being a concern (drove car off road, suicide and other reasons). They are still missing and investigations are done to make sure there is no public concern. We search for them so that we can aid them if they are in need and so that we can bring peace of mind to the family. That is what was asked of you. No one asked you or any other member of the public to play “Cops”. It was not demanded that you help or feel anything and you were not publicly judged for your part. The same should be for this family and the missing person.

    One would assume that the police investigating this case would give the public all these details IF they felt that it would aid in finding the missing (might be seen with current boyfriend/friend). News reports and police did not give that information and it is not up to you or any person of the public to dig up that information or demand it.Have we not already learned what happens when the public decides to play Cop, Jury and Judge? This country has a long history of that and it has never ended well. Let the police handle this, please.

  11. It would explain why social media is digging to find answers. It would explain why they want their privacy. It would explain why they were worried..it would explain a lot.

    The other questions. Nope. Yes. I am writing a book about all that and when it is done you can read it if you want to know about all that, but I doubt you do and only said it for effect. No hidden agenda, just the opposite, really. My husband, and no, he was up at 4:30 a.m. this morning and I'm a night owl.

  12. Yes, yes, yes. I wish them well. It is sad they many young people go away from the family fold, and it is so painful for the family. But that is the circle of life. Kids grow up and move away. Some stay near, some run as far away as they can get.

  13. I didn't post it. Someone else did in the comments and I am looking for clarification. No one should come out and publicly announce all their secrets, but the truth would be nice. Harassment is not cool and I do not know why these people have settled in to do that to the family. Some of the things stated happened, I have found no evidence it happened and stated such. If you think this is about people wanting to know details about what happened when Aubrey was found, I don't think that's what it is. From what I have been able to gather, they are upset because the family lied about Aubrey missing. I, myself, believe the family was covering up something, but I know not what. Comments are open to anyone that would like to explain why some of social media is mad at the family.

  14. To Katrina 17,
    This is data that the police needs, not you or any other member of the public. None of this aids you or the general public in putting up fliers or sharing the fact that she is missing. All this small and insignificant information is relevant…to the police and the detectives investigating her disappearance. You and the general public are not police officers or detectives. We are not the FBI or other agency and knowing these small details does not aid any of us in helping. “
    1.
    Your writing reflect that you are a strong advocate for protecting the privacy of the family is commendable. When I posed the questions I did not expect answers. If you search for missing persons check list, you will find several variations written by officials in Washington DC , individual states and other organizations. I found a checklist for missing childrèn that is thorough. The police rely on the parents and friends for this informatioñ. Initially, the family would be overwhelmed looking at the checklist but it could be completed with another person. Sometimes you just ddon’t have the answer which is okay.

    “Only thing it does is give people a reason to talk (oh, well I heard…) and anyone talking can't claim ¥ or sympathy for her or her family (or any missing person case). Your motivation for helping and caring should be that someone is missing.
    2.
    Implying that I am seeking information for personal pleasure is you idea. I understand that many individuals seek pleasure from someone else’s pain but I am not one of those individuals.
    “Race, age, sexuality, gender, religion, past history, criminal record, relationship status and the such should have no bearing. If not having the answers to any of the questions you demand to know becomes the reason to not come to someones aid then the issue is not with the family or the missing person, it is with you.”
    3. If individuals are going to aid in the search, the police and volunteers need to know race,age, sexuality,etc, I am not sure why this statement is directed at me but I get the sense there is anger behind this statement. You stated that I demanded to know the answers? I NEVER demanded answers to the questions.
    “ As a community we should come together to aid each other and we shouldn't expect anything in return. Not an explanation and not a Thank you. It should be enough, just finding that a missing person, child or adult, has been found. The only time the public needs details is if foul play is at hand and public safety is a concern. Many missing people can come up missing without public safety being concern (drove car off road, suicide and other reasons). They are still missing and investigations are done to make sure there is no public concern. We search for them so that we can aid them if they are in need and so that we can bring peace of mind to the family. That is what was asked of you,. No one asked you or any other member of the public to play “Cops”. It was not demanded that you help or feel anything and you were not publicly judged for your part. The same should be for this family and the missing person. “
    4. Now you have really derailed from my post. I have an extensive clinical background that includes involvement with law officials, paramedics, lawyers,etc.

  15. No, I have not, but it would be a good thing for them to have. I think that police gather that info from the family's and use that in their search. For family's that want to continue the search or do something on there own it would be nice for them to have one.